Friday, September 28, 2012

 

+ (Father) Charles “Dionysius” Caldwell



Fr Caldwell and Basil Caldwell November 2001
Few are the men who impact our life, looming larger than life.  In the days since burying my former Pastoral Theology professor, Charles Caldwell, I’ve pondered my small cadre.  Should the Lord tarry and my life continue, perhaps I’ll know others.  For now, I number them on one hand.

The Very Rev’d Dr Charles Caldwell is one.  So much so that when my wife was with our second child, and we were discussing names for our son, we decided to go with two men who had helped to shape our lives and ministry.  Basil’s middle name is Caldwell.

After fifty years as an Episcopal priest, Charles Caldwell converted to Orthodoxy shortly before he died, taking St Dionysius the Aeropagite as his patron.  It was my great and humbling pleasure to Confess, Chrismate, Commune, and Anoint him.  Two weeks later, I was blessed to bury him.

A bit of back story …

The guy was a nut job.  (Even his sister, when asked at the funeral, “Was he always slightly crazy?” replied, “SLIGHTLY?”)  He was a wild man.  Although having lost a leg due to cancer years before I met him, it’s hard to picture the man being still.  Imbedded in my mind is a constantly moving image of Fr Caldwell hustling to class – prosthetic leg flailing, cane digging forward, a plethora of books and Xeroxes sloppily clutched under one arm, dark trench coat and longish oily hair flailing about; as usual, he’s late for class.  It was a sight to see; still is.  He lives on in my mental loop.  Smiling, never still; slightly crazy, still.

I came to Nashotah House in the summer of 1989.  Long before classes began that fall, rumors and tales of Fr Charles Caldwell began to paint the man larger than life.  Folks loved him or hated him; cliché, but true.  There were two distinct camps on campus; I will not label them.  Suffice it to say that one camp lives on in a diseased and dying communion, the other has, in large part, left the building.

Professors had their own leanings which, on a tiny campus like Nashotah House, were impossible to hide.  But it wasn’t Fr Caldwell’s label that caused a stir.  (Lord knows, we all had friends across the divide.)  It was because he was himself.  He was not defined by you or your beliefs.  He did not live, nor change, to please you.  And he was always teaching.  Always.  Yours was to learn, always.  This was not done haughtily – he did not lord over you.  He taught as if his salvation depended on it.  He could be moody, but he was never unloving.  I won’t rehash old Episcopalian battles – to what end?  But I can say that everything Fr Caldwell taught us back at Nashotah House – from culture clashes, to sex perversion skirmishes, to church wars – has warred out before us in the years since.  

One of Fr Caldwell’s favorite quotes, heard often in class, was from H. Richard Niebuhr’s work, The Kingdom of God in America (1937), which criticized the liberal social gospel, describing its message as, "A God without wrath brought men without sin into a kingdom without judgment through the ministrations of a Christ without a cross."  

The nutty stuff he taught us in his Pastoral Theology classes?  True.  All of it.  One had to experience the ordained ministry to understand; by golly, Fr Caldwell was right!  He was no dummy, just slightly crazy.

Fr Caldwell taught more about Orthodoxy than Anglicanism.  He taught prayer and care and tons about the human condition and the Cross of Vocation with which we would all soon struggle.  He railed against the contemporary heresy of political correctness, and sung the merits of studying CG Jung, Sigmund Freud, and Rollo May.  Mostly, he was a loving family man who was devoted to the Mother of God.  He loved to laugh, he loved to smile.  I trust he still does.

(On our last meeting, while visiting after Communion one week before he died, we were talking about the news and the crazy state of the world.  I said, “Yeah, some hope to see 72 virgins when they die, we just hope to see one.”  He laughed till I thought I’d hurt him.)

How’d his conversion come about?

Back in 1997, while still serving on the East Coast, having corresponded with Fr Caldwell since seminary, I visited him at his home in Naples, Florida.  At one point during the visit I said, “Father – I brought Chrism.”  He smiled and said, “Let’s do it!”  But as his wife, Ellie, later pointed out – his having recently suffered one of many strokes – his reasoning wasn’t the best.  There was no Chrismation that day.  But, I did have him bless a new neck cross for me.  I know, he was Episcopalian; this was certainly unorthodox!  But, there’s more …

Since that day in 1997, Fr Caldwell and I were fairly regular (by today’s standard) in our snail mail correspondence.  He'd always said that if he was received into the Orthodox Church he wanted to take St Dionysius as his patron.  He did not do the Internet.  His old foe, cancer, once again ravaged his body; he wrote me back in June of this year to tell me he only had a couple months to live.  He used to always send $ to my son, Basil Caldwell, on his birthday.  This year, he sent extra money to make up for the years he would miss.  I replied to him on the Feast of St Elisha, saying: 

Your most recent letter, as with all your letters, is a testimony to your unswerving faith and perseverance!  You and yours are a model for us all.  I am so weak that the least little ailment bothers me.  But you, Father, seem to slay great dragons on a regular basis.  God bless and keep you.  You are in my prayers when I pray; pray that I pray more.

I ended that letter by saying that, with Ellie’s approval, I would come Chrismate him before he died, if he still desired. It wasn’t long before I received a reply:  “Yes, please come Chrismate me before I die.  I want to be Orthodox!”  I must confess, not knowing how to make this a reality, I drug my feet in replying to his letter.  

Several weeks had passed when I received another letter from Fr Caldwell, saying:  “If you are going to Chrismate me before I die you’d better come quickly.”  He then went on to inform me that he had been getting affairs in order, reading the prayers and the Funeral Service from the Antiochian Service Book, etc.  So, having received a blessing from my bishop, I began making arrangements to fly to Naples to Chrismate my friend.

On the day I was online buying the plane tickets, his son called to tell me that Fr Caldwell had been moved to Hospice Care.  I told him that I would be there on Labor Day; tell him to hang on!  He said, “Oh, he’ll hang on alright; he wouldn’t miss this!”

And, he didn’t.  On Monday, September 3, 2012 I entered his hospital room and it was full of joy.  The first question I asked was:  “Are you ready for this?”  Without hesitation, he said:  “Yes, I am!”  (You might think we were talking about the Chrismation.  I understood, as I believe he did, that we were discussing moving beyond the veil.)

After his Confession, we were joined by some of his family, those who live in the home place – wife Ellie, son Stephen, and daughter Margie – for the Chrismation, Communion, and Anointing.  From that point, our discussions were sober and morbid.  The newly-illumined Dionysius was preparing to go to his rest, to finally be still.

I stopped by to Commune him the following day – Tuesday, September 4th.  As I spoke with him that morning, I noticed, draped under his hospital gown, that old baptismal cross he had blessed for me fifteen years ago.  On the Sunday before his Chrismation, I blessed it with holy water and placed it on the holy table for the Liturgy.  I’d had no time to get him a new baptismal cross, so I gave him mine.

Fr Joseph Shaheen of St Paul’s, Naples visited him a couple times in the following week.  Eight days after being received into the Church, Charles Dionysius Caldwell fell asleep in the Lord. Fr Joe and I buried him on September 18, 2012.  Obit

In between his death and burial, the Church celebrated the Great Feast of the Elevation of the Cross.  The reading for the Sunday after the Elevation:

The Lord Said, "If any man would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it; and whoever loses his life for my sake and the gospel's will save it. For what does it profit a man, to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul? For what can a man give in return for his soul? For whoever is ashamed of me and of my words in this adulterous and sinful generation, of him will the Son of man also be ashamed, when he comes in the glory of his Father with the holy angels." And he said to them, "Truly, I say to you, there are some standing here who will not taste death before they see the Kingdom of God come with power.  (Mark 8:34-9:1)

Anyway, it was all very fitting in every way.  I don’t really know how to tie up this long tribute to a beloved friend and teacher.  So, I’ll just mention a few more things about him:

One final note – a curious one, but such is life.  His lovely wife, Ellie, just before I left the family home in Naples following the burial, gave me an envelope.  She said she wasn’t sure what to do with it, started to bury him with it, but decided that I might want it back.  “Your medal,” she said.

He blessed, I wore; I blessed, he wore; I now wear.  That cross.

Before Thy Cross we bow down in worship, O Master, and Thy holy Resurrection we glorify.

May his memory be eternal!

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Wednesday, September 26, 2012

 

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Friday, September 07, 2012

 

Molly Sabourin - Coming to Houston

Women's Retreat:  The Antiochian Women of St Joseph is hosting a retreat on Saturday, September 22nd with popular blogger, podcaster, and author Molly Sabourin.

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Saturday, September 01, 2012

 
Make Yours Acceptable to the Lord!

It seems odd saying "Happy New Year" in September, but that’s when the Church marks Her annual beginning. September 1st is, for the Church, the first day of a New Year.

A pious tradition of the Church holds that Jesus of Nazareth began preaching the good news of His mission on September 1st. When our Lord entered the Synagogue, He was given the book of the Prophet Isaiah to read, and He opened it and found the place where it is written:

The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim release to the captives and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed, to proclaim the acceptable year of the Lord.

And he closed the book, and gave it back to the attendant, and sat down; and the eyes of all in the synagogue were fixed on him. And he began to say to them, "Today this scripture has been fulfilled in your hearing" (Luke 4:18-21).

Tradition also holds that it was during the month of September that the Hebrews entered the Promised Land. And, the custom of beginning a new year with autumn was common in Biblical and Mediterranean lands because the summer harvest was completed, the crops were stored, and it was a time when people began preparing for a new agricultural cycle. It was an appropriate time for a new beginning. This is evident in the services for the New Year as the Church beseeches God for fair weather, seasonable rains, and an abundance of the fruits of the earth.

As we begin this new year it should be noted that the Church Calendar is loaded with important events -- especially the 12 Great Feasts, the Four Fasts, and PASCHA. Also, each day of the Church Year is set aside to honor Saints; many of whom died on that particular date. Similar to our personal calendars where we mark the earthly birthdays of family and friends, the Church remembers the Saints on their "heavenly birthday" -- the day they passed from this life to Paradise.

Liturgically, the Church Year begins and ends with the Mother of God. The first Great Feast of the Year, September 8th, honors her birth; the last Great Feast of the Year, August 15th, remembers her falling asleep. Between these two Great Feasts the Church marks 10 other major Feasts and PASCHA, the Feast of Feasts. Here's a list of those Feasts, including their dates for the coming year (those using the so-called Old Calendar add 13 days to fixed feasts -- not Pascha, Ascension & Pentecost):

Special thanks to the webpage of the Greek Archdiocese for the following feast info!

 Birth of the Theotokos, September 8th

Elevation of the Holy Cross, September 14th

Entry of the Theotokos in the Temple, November 21st

Nativity of Christ (Christmas), December 25th
-- preceded by a 40-day fast which begins on St Philip's Day, November 15th

Baptism of Christ (Theophany), January 6th

Meeting of Christ in the Temple, February 2nd

Annunciation of the Theotokos, March 25th

Entry into Jerusalem (Palm Sunday) April 28, 2013
-- preceded by the Great Fast and followed by Passion Week

PASCHA - May 5, 2013

Ascension of our Lord, June 13, 2013

Pentecost Sunday, June 23, 2013

Transfiguration of our Lord, August 6th

Falling Asleep of the Theotokos (Dormition), August 15th
-- preceded by a 2-week fast which begins on August 1st

The dates for Palm Sunday, PASCHA, Ascension, and Pentecost vary each year.  The Apostles’ Fast can vary in length. It begins on the Monday after All Saints Sunday (the first Sunday after Pentecost) and ends with the Feast, June 29th.  NOTE:  This year, for those on the so-called New Calendar, due to the late date of PASCHA, there is no Apostles' Fast.

Each parish also celebrates its "altar feast" on the day set aside for its Patron Saint, Feast, or Name.

The wall calendars that most parishes make available each fall include many of the daily Saints and readings for the year. Also, most people have their own Patron Saint -- or "nameday" -- to remember, as well as other favorite and family Saints’ days.

Why not start the New Year off right? Mark your personal calendar with the Feasts, Fasts, and Saints days of the Church. Make a resolution to participate in the liturgical cycle of the Church. Unlike mundane New Year's resolutions, marking your calendar, keeping the Feasts and Fasts, and embarking for a new life within the annual life of the Church is a wonderful way to sanctify time. Let’s all join together in making this an “acceptable year of the Lord!”

Happy New Year!

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